Guest Post: Cherish Every Moment with Those You Love

By Miles McConnell
Living with ALS since 2015

This is the fourth in a series of posts from people living with ALS who are featured in our #VoiceYourLove campaign.

This time of year brings memories of two important days in my life.

The first memory is from February 13, 1999, the day I proposed to my incredible wife, Dubie. We had first connected upon the strong suggestion of my best friend, who said that there was a girl that I had to meet that day. He was right and ever since I did, I was sure that we would be together forever.

After a few years of dating, the time finally came to make it permanent. I asked her to join me on our favorite hike, but (for reasons I will reveal later), I had to cancel at the last minute. We made the same plan for the next day, yet again, I needed to cancel. The following day, I attempted again but Dubie said she was “busy”. I did my best to convince her otherwise but she had had enough of my cancellations. I was left with no choice but to go to her office and tell her that I wasn’t going to leave until she said she would at least have dinner with me that evening in my San Francisco apartment. Finally, much to my relief, she relented.

We had dinner, during which I tried to lighten the mood by steering the conversation toward “Remember when…” and talked about funny and memorable moments we had shared. After dinner, I made dessert and to my surprise upon returning to the living room, she had turned on the TV and was falling asleep! I woke her up with dessert and an orchid plant to which I tied a wax mold of a ring I had designed for her. It took her a few moments to realize what was happening. By then, I was down on one knee, and proposed. She cried, said yes, and that was the beginning of our incredible adventure together.

The second memory that stands out in my mind was 16 years later, February 23, 2015 – the day I was told I had ALS. When I felt my first symptom of things to come on a beautiful spring day of backcountry skiing in the Sierras, I wrote it off as a bad day.  When I sprained my ankle while running a few months later, I knew then that there was something wrong. After many different tests over a troubling period of months, I was told that I had amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS). I was 49 years old.

At first, I was filled with feelings of shock, disbelief, fear, and overwhelming sadness for my family. Over time, as I worked through these emotions through mindfulness and reflection, I came to accept this new chapter of my life. Dubie and our teenage sons have been my main source of strength throughout. The disease has severely affected my mobility, and has started to affect my voice. I try not to think about what life will be like when I am unable to communicate using my voice. But I know that when I need to face that challenge, there will be resources and solutions.

For me, this journey would not be possible to navigate without the help of my family, my friends, and the incredible community and organization of The ALS Association. In gratitude, I want to make a strong effort to be positive influence for our ALS community. I believe that the ability to slow the progression of ALS is close at hand. Which is why your efforts to raise awareness about ALS are so crucial! It is people, like you, coming together and asking their network for support that gives hope and help to those facing this disease.

It is very important to me that my family knows how much I love them. While there is a lot of loss with ALS, one can still live for each day and cherish every moment. By joining me, and voicing your love to raise ALS awareness, you can help those suffering today and possibly alleviate future suffering. Together, we can work toward the goal of a world without ALS!

As part of a new nationwide campaign, The ALS Association challenges you to “Voice Your Love” and help us raise awareness about ALS and one of its most devastating impacts: the loss of a person’s ability to speak. Learn more at

4 thoughts on “Guest Post: Cherish Every Moment with Those You Love”

  1. Myhusband was also diagnosed with ALS at 49. His was bulbar onset. God gave him 11 more years and saw his children grow up, get married and meet 3 of his grandchildren. Thanks for sharing your story.


  2. Miles and Dubie I totally know what you are going through. My husband Bill was diagnosed in 1996 at the age of 57 and although he had a slow progression it was one loss after another. He too had a wonderful outlook on life even though he was totally quadriplegic. My love and that of our 4 children and family and friends and the help of the ALS Association is what kept him going. His love for our family is what kept us strong. He was quite fortunate that his speech was never affected and he was able to live with ALS for 14 years. My prayers are with you that you will have as many or more loving years together as a family as Bill and I did.


  3. My girlfriend was diagnosed with ALS.
    I belong to an Eagles auxiliary and we are raising money for ALS. We would like to send it to somewhere local.
    Is there some wher in North Fort Myers or Fort Myers?


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